I bought Lisa Congdon’s Find Your Artistic Voice, went straight from the bookstore to a coffee shop and devoured it in about two hours. Lisa is an illustrator and her usual audience is artists, but I think this book and the concept of an artistic voice expands beyond just fine art to any creative endeavor we choose – dance, music, baking, gardening, fashion, make up, crafts, photography, collecting, decorating, writing…you get the point.
Here are some of my favorite highlights.
Conformity is for the Birds.
I’ve always felt like an outsider and for some reason I perceived this as bad. I spent my whole life trying to fit in, be more like the “popular” people. But a thought popped into my mind while I was running the other day (running is like showering in that respect). It was this – why be a second (third, fourth…etc.) rate copy of somebody else (thinking a lot about celebrity/influencer culture here) when you can be a first-rate version of yourself? I wish I had learned this 40 years ago. Also, I felt like an outsider most of my life because I hadn’t found my people yet.
Enter Your Orbit.
Don’t think of finding your artistic voice as a destination, it’s more like “entering your own ‘orbit’, where you are floating around in your own circular path, like a planet orbits around its own sun. The sun you orbit around is your aptitude and skills, your ideas, your style, your perspective – all the things that make your voice yours.” I love this analogy because it allows room to evolve and grow. It’s not a fixed point. No matter where you are in your journey, you have an artistic voice, it’s not something you achieve, it’s who you are and how you express it. A three-year-old has an artistic voice just as much as an 83-year-old does.
Practice – A Lot
Lisa breaks down artistic voice into five components – style, skill, subject matter, medium and consistency. Her 10 steps to develop skill basically boil down to one word – practice.
For some reason when we think of art, we think we must have “natural talent”. But the truth is, it’s a skill like anything else. And the only way to develop that skill is through practice. Think of all the skills you’ve mastered over your life – walking, talking, reading, driving, math, cooking, etc. You already possess the most important skill of all – learning.
This all sounds so easy – just practice!
Unfortunately, our thoughts and feelings get in the way of our doing. Fear of failure, looking foolish, not being good enough are a few that come to mind. The older we get, the harder it is to be a beginner, with all its mistakes, messiness, doubts, and fumbles. But if we’re ever to improve, to bring that vision in our head and birth it into being, we must go through this stage.
The problem is we try to solve it by changing our thoughts and feelings.
William Glasser wrote a wonderful book – Control Theory. This is another one of those books I’ll never get rid of. The part that resonated with me and is applicable here is summed up as such: humans are basically a control system made up of four components that comprise our total behavior – doing (acting), thinking (our thoughts), feeling (emotions) and physiology (sweating, turning red). These are not mutually exclusive; each affects the others.
There is a huge emphasis these days on trying to change our thoughts and feelings, so we’ll act, either at all or differently. Most of us know how ineffective this is and Glasser points out that the one component we have the most control over is doing.
“Regardless of how we feel, we always have some control over what we do.”
So, the way to move forward is to act – imperfectly, cautiously, irrationally, stubbornly, doubtfully, anxiously, nervously, fearfully – no matter what we think or feel. As Glasser states, “Because we always have control over the doing component of our behavior if we markedly change that component, we cannot avoid changing the thinking, feeling and physiological components as well” (emphasis his).
Looking back at my own life I can see the truth in this. There have been days I am depressed, don’t want to do anything. No amount of thinking changed my mind. I just wanted to retreat into myself. But there were times when I had to get out of bed, take a shower, put on actual clothes, do my hair, etc. and wouldn’t you know it, these simple acts did improve my mood.
I’d also like to add that confidence is a by-product of acting. The more we practice, the more confidence we’ll get. Trying to get confidence before you do anything is a recipe for procrastination.
Make Your Own Rules.
The only rule book you need to follow is yours. And you find your personal “rules” by doing what you love, playing around and making discoveries.
I’m not a spontaneous person by nature. I like rules. They give me structure and order. The problem is I’ve internalized someone else’s rules. I have made it a habit of narrowly defining things, like “nurture” to look a certain way – in this case, Mother Theresa-like selflessness. And since I don’t measure up to that, I haven’t thought of myself as nurturing. But I am nurturing. It just doesn’t look like Mother Theresa’s (I mean, whose does, for crying out loud?) When I realized I was doing this, I also realized the rules and definitions that I’ve ingrained are never in my favor or the way I do something. I’ve consistently set myself up to be “wrong”. I mean, what the hell is that all about?
Create a Meaningful Practice
Practice will help develop your skills. To develop the discipline to practice, you need to make it a habit. And it will be easier to do so if you make it meaningful and fun (recognizing sometimes it’ll just suck and that’s okay).
I’ve been consistently running for about 15 years. How did I develop the discipline to do so? I had a running partner. I wasn’t particularly fond of running but I was motivated to be healthy. I would have never become a runner if I had to do it on my own. She was my cheerleader and rock. Many mornings I wanted to stay in bed but I didn’t want to let her down. She helped ease me through the awkward beginner stage and our bond grew stronger as that hour became our morning therapy – a chance to physically and verbally work through the ups and downs in our life. When it came time to part ways, running was a deeply ingrained part of my being. It’s harder for me to not run, than just get up and do it.
A practice doesn’t have to take long. Our brain prioritizes consistency over duration so having a 15 minute a day practice will get you farther (and stick better) than doing something for an hour once a week.
The epiphany I had while writing this is realizing I need a practice buddy. One of the reasons I stopped working for myself was because I didn’t like doing it alone. I like having someone to bounce ideas off of, commiserate with, solve problems and cheer on.
The takeaway for me is this – to maximize my time, energy, enjoyment, and creativity – get a partner. Someone who is working on their own creative goals, and we can support and encourage each other. And give a gentle kick in the ass when needed. Leave me a comment if you are interested and want to explore what that might look like.
Focus on the process, not the outcome.
I am guilty of this and it’s not an easy habit to break. Focusing on the outcome triggers all those fears mentioned earlier – looking foolish, being good enough, etc. This is at the root of all perfectionism.
Focusing on the process can also help move us into that all important action by reframing it as play or curiosity. Detach from the outcome and think of it as a learning experience. What worked? What didn’t? What could you do differently? Good or bad, outcomes are nothing more than feedback.
And if it all goes to hell, just think of what a good story it will make later on.
Sometimes the process is overwhelming, what do you do then? Break it down into baby steps. A complicated process is nothing more than a series of simple steps. And you don’t need to know all the steps, just the first step. Once you get through that, the second step is usually obvious. If not, just pick something and try it and keep doing that until something works.
While this book is about finding your voice, it led me to some interesting conclusions and a renewed sense of energy and motivation. I have a project I’ve been mulling over and it’s been killing me how I’ve been getting in my own way. Now I see a clear path forward and I’m excited to start.